September 19, 2014

Dear Cammy: Making Up is Hard to Do

Dear Cammy,

My friends and I got into a fight then we made up.  But now all they do is ignore me and tell me that I’m wrong.  I really need help.  What should I do?

Lonely and Alone


Dear Lonely and Alone,

I’m sorry to here that you’re friends and you got into a fight.  One thing that I do know from experience is that getting over a fight is never easy.  Looking over your situation, it looks like you still have some unresolved things in your case.  Try sitting down with them and talking to them about how you feel and let them know that you are upset at what they are saying.  Let them speak and hear their feelings and thoughts over this fight.

If all is resolved go out and make memories.  I figure memories are the quickest way to bring people together.

If things are not resolved, I think that it is time to think about a new group of friends.  If people are not treating you right and making you feel bad or uncomfortable, then those people are not your friends.  I hope this helps and best of luck!

Cammy

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Dear Cammy: Advice for a Picky Eater

Dear Cammy,

I am a very picky eater.  Whenever I go to my friend’s house, there are times that I do not like the food that is being served.  I don’t want to eat the food, but I also don’t want to be rude to their parents.  What should I do?

Miss Picky

 

Dear Miss Picky,

That is always an awkward situation.  You’re not alone on this, many people are picky eaters also.  If you can try a little piece, do so.  If not, decline in the most polite way possible.  Try coming up with an excuse such as, “No thanks, I had a big lunch.”  You don’t have to eat what is served, but always remember your manners.

Good luck,

Cammy

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More Columns from Cammy

We are delighted to publish more columns from our wonderful teenage advice columnist today.  The column is designed for middle schoolers and is written by a girl, ‘Cammy’, who is middle school age, but opting to remain anonymous.  We apologize sincerely for the delay in publishing these new columns — it was entirely the editor’s fault, and most definitely not Cammy’s!

Cammy welcomes questions and concerns from all ages.  You can reach her at cammy12100@gmail.com and she is really looking forward to hearing from you.

Dear Cammy,

My friend borrowed $10 from me two months ago and still hasn’t gotten it back. I need the money for the holidays. What should I do?

Minus Ten Dollars

Dear Minus Ten Dollars,

Money problems are always a tough topic. You just need to find a kind of way to ask for the money. For example, you could say, “Hey __________________, I was just wondering if you had the $10 I lent you. I need it for the holidays, so if you could just get it to me as soon as possible, that would be great.” Always handle these situations in a calm, kind, and gentle fashion. Good luck!

Cammy

 

Dear Cammy,

My friend just got a new haircut and it doesn’t look very attractive, she keeps asking what I think. I don’t want to lie to her, but I also don’t want to hurt her feelings. What should I say? What should I do? Help!

Cut too Close

Dear Cut too Close,

Hair is something that you cannot change in an instant.  You don’t want to tell her that you hate it and have her walk around feeling bad about herself.  You should tell her that you like it.  Then when it grows out, tell her that you didn’t mind her haircut, but it wasn’t the one for her.  Maybe suggest a new cute haircut or going back to the way it was before.

Always be kind and considerate, especially when the person cannot change it.  If they can’t control it they will feel bad about themselves until it finally changes.

Good luck with the hairy issue!  Tee Hee!

Cammy

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‘Dear Cammy’ Advice Column Debuts Today

We are delighted to start one of our two new advice columns today.  This one is designed for middle schoolers and is written by a girl, ‘Cammy’, who is middle school age, but opting to remain anonymous.  She welcomes questions and concerns from all ages.  You can reach Cammy at cammy12100@gmail.com and she is really looking forward to hearing from you.

Our second columnist, Jen Mann — who is also our wonderful book reviewer — is currently working on her first column, which is designed primarily for adults.  Send your questions to her at jpmann@sbcglobal.net

Cammy’s first two columns are below:

Dear Cammy,

I feel as though I don’t fit in.  My friends do one sport but I do a different one.  Our schedules don’t overlap, so I don’t get together with them as often as I used to.  I never get any of their inside jokes and feel left out.  What should I do?

Lonely in Sports

Dear Lonely in Sports,

It’s important to maintain friendships throughout middle school and it’s great that you want to be included.  One thing that you could do is look over your schedule and plan times that you are available, then ask your friends when they are available.  You figure out dates and times that you all can get together.  Sometimes it doesn’t seem to work out, even though these are your friends.  Peoples interests change and people draw apart.  Find a group of people that have the same interests as you.

Cammy

Dear Cammy,

This year I have started getting a ton of homework, and my sport and activity schedule is getting in the way.  I am missing a couple homework assignments and I’m afraid as the year goes on, I’m going to miss even more and my grades will be affected.  I’m usually a really good student, I just don’t know what to do.

MIA Homework
Dear MIA Homework,

Good for you for recognizing that you need help.  Recognizing there is a problem is the first step to fixing it.  It’s great that you are reaching out for help.  An important skill that you learn throughout middle school is time management and organization.  The first thing that you should do is talk to your parent, your teacher, or a person that can help you with your problem.  You need to prioritize and if skipping a practice is necessary then go ahead.  Another thing that you could do is, if you feel you have one sport/activity that you don’t enjoy you can always either postpone or drop till you learn to manage you  time.  In the beginning of the week you should plan out your activity schedule and decide where your homework and study time will go.  You just need to remember that school ALWAYS comes first.

Cammy

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